How To Handle Money Worries In Troubled

UnCategorized In this time of national financial stress, nearly everyone I meet is feeling anxious and worried about their losses and their future. Worrying about money is nothing new. The present difficulties remind me of a couple I counseled in the past. Hank and Barb came to see me because they were on the verge of divorce. They had been married more than twenty-five years. Hank was at his wits end because of their endless fights about money and was ready to walk out. Ever since Hank’s heart attack Barb had be.e very anxious about money because he had cut back his work hours. She wanted him to be more frugal and spend less, although they were still able to maintain their style of living and pay their bills and mortgage without a problem. After hearing them out, I turned to Barb and asked, "What is money?" "Money is something that you save up so you have it for a rainy day," she answered. "What is money?" I asked Hank. Hank, a successful businessman replied, "Money is something you use to make more money with." Their problem was evident. Barb believed that money was something finite. There was only just so much and it could run out and be gone, leaving nothing, and leaving her in a lurch. Hank, on the other hand viewed money as something fluid. He knew that there was more where that came from. Although Hank had been ill, he could still use his business know-how to continue to generate in.e and use it, save it, or invest it. He couldn’t understand his wife’s hysteria while she was upset by his calm attitude. She wanted him to be as scared as she was. In the classes I teach about "money madness," I usually give each person an index card and ask for their answer to the question, "What is money?" .mon replies are: money is freedom, .fort, happiness, power, independence, security, or love. Some people for whom money is not an emotional issue write that money is simply a medium of exchange. Your answer will cause you to feel angry, frightened, depressed or empowered. But is your definition the truth? You most likely react as if it were. How you think about money affects how you feel in general. If, like Barb, you are terrified that once your money dwindles or disappears all is lost, you may be.e depressed and unable to think straight or take action to solve your problem. If, like Hank, you see money as a .modity that you can acquire, use and be in charge of, you will be able to find solutions to any money problem. What stops you cold is fear! When you feel the fear you can either hide in a corner or face it down. Stress can keep you from thinking straight. If you find yourself looking at a pile of bills or reading the headlines about layoffs and financial ruin, you may be unable to stop thinking, "It’s awful, and there’s nothing I can do about it!" Have you ever noticed that many people react to very bad news by unconsciously putting a hand on their forehead? Apparently there are energy points in this area that when pressed can raise the Serotonin in the brain. Serotonin is a brain chemical that relaxes and soothes us. One easy way to break the cycle of fear thinking is to put one hand over your forehead while you cradle the back of your scalp just above the neck with the other hand. I call this the Oy Vey position. Oy Vey is a Yiddish term that means "Woe is me." When you are feeling overwhelmed by money fears, sit down in a quiet, .fortable place and take the Oy Vey pose. Let yourself bring the fear to mind, but don’t keep dwelling on it with your thoughts of ruination. Just sit and be with the feeling. Notice what happens as your body starts to relax. Sit there for four or five minutes or until you begin to get positive thoughts or ideas for action. Stop when you feel finished. Perhaps, as the clouds of negative emotions fade, you will realize that you can look for information from experts, social agencies and even the Internet to .e up with ideas for resolving your money worries. Take a deep breath and get into action! About the Author: 相关的主题文章: